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Today’s learn

So I’ve just found out I have about 20minutes to write before I reach Milan Malpensa Airport.

The initial plan was to do it like a self conscious streamline on my Moleskine limited edition Beauty A5 lined notebook, but the bus ride is a little too bumpy to do so, so here I am.

I always say I don’t know how to begin but I always end up with long winded introduction.

I was suppose to finish my Girls’ trip to Milan day 3 and final draft this morning. Then I felt like I was just telling stories of what happened on day 3. It was a good trip, a good day 3, but do I need to tell a story on what happened? What do I get from it? Will I come back and read that someday to remind me what happened? How does that improve my life quality? I know I wasn’t writing for my readers, which I don’t think there’s any, honestly, I was writing it for myself. But, why was I writing it when I couldn’t answer the above questions? Was I writing for the sake of writing? Or was I writing so I could mark of the task on my to-do list? I’m confused.

I went thru some photos of that trip, reminded me I should plan another trip to bring mom and sister. We should have more girls time together. Photos or not, blog post or not, I guess is the memories of spending quality time that matters. The memories will be ours, no one else. That is what matters.

With that, I’ll still complete my post, well, just in case I want to have something to look back. But I will constantly remind myself the purpose of me writing, a memory for myself (and mom and sis if they would like to read), and that’s it.

I used to write more spontaneously, what changed?

Is the idea of being presentable (so-called) that looks good on instagram and facebook, try to make things as ‘perfect’ as possible, then I saw this video called Done is better than perfect. Start before you are ready! by Aileen Xu, or her YouTube name Lavendaire. So it reminds me why am I being inconsistent in getting things done. Being a (occasional) perfectionist, sometimes I like to make things perfect and sometimes I just don’t. And when I don’t, probably I’ll get things done quicker. The result might not be the one I’ll be proud of, but I’ve got things done, rather than keep thinking I must make sure everything is perfect. And what I could do is to review my result and learn how to make things better (just like when I’m experimenting with my bullet journal). But that doesn’t mean I’m not giving out my best, that is actually the best I could do at that point of time, with the limited resources I have at the moment.

So yeah, that’s my learn for today. My 20 minutes is up. I’m gonna label this post as another today’s learn. After all, life is a learning process. We learn from everyone and we learn everyday. Keep an open mind and keep learning!

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Let me begin this post with, I am writing the girls’ trip to Milan (Day 3) tomorrow.

I’ve learned this from a book called Eat the Frog or Eat the Frog first, something like that. It’s a book about overcoming procrastination, by tackling the most difficult task FIRST. So here I am, tackling this once-was-the-easiest-task-but-it’s-now-totally-not task — posting on time and committed to complete by far the most re-scheduled tasks in my journal.

I’m supposed to do the girls’ trip today. But I didn’t. I could have used the time now to draft that instead of this, but I choose to do this. Which made me realized, I’m more motivated to post inspirational/ motivational/ lesson-learned kind of posts compared to travelogue or reviews. Maybe it’s for me to narrow down to a few topic that truly inspires me, rather than juggling too many balls at the same time.

I’d like to dedicate this post to a friend of mine. Technically, she was more known to me as my friend’s girlfriend. Although I have met her a few times, we didn’t have the opportunity to talk to each other on a more personal level. She was several years younger than me, but she passed away due to dengue recently. I didn’t know dengue could be so deadly and it happened so fast and so unexpectedly.

Needless to say, the incident leaves my friend an unimaginable impact. Who would have guessed this? A little girl passed away at her twenties just like that. Life is so fragile. Was my first thought.

I met up with this friend yesterday, slightly a month after the incident. My intention was to check on him, see how’re things going on his side. Obviously, I wouldn’t expect to see him happy, but as a friend, I want to show support. I tried to be extra careful with my choice of word, I rehearse at least 2 times everytime before I say something. I know any kind of question or word will trigger his sadness. I mean, there really isn’t anything I could do to help someone feel better in this kind of situation.

After the conversation with my friend, here are my thoughts:

  1. Be the supportive friend and family, especially at times like that.
  2. Sometimes less is more. It’s applicable to words too.
  3. Memories could either heal or kill a person.
  4. We need to tell ourselves we don’t need to experience to learn.
  5. Quality is always more important than quantity.
  6. Live life to the fullest and don’t give yourself any chance to regret.

Things that we have been told over and over again, by the wise, by the experienced, yet, they don’t hit us until the very moment things occur. Let’s not take anything or anyone for granted. Biggest lesson learned today. And that is the lesson to be remembered for life.

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Fashion mistakes and tips by Miss Louie

Ever since I’ve started my capsule wardrobe, I had been looking up for articles and videos about how to choose the ‘perfect‘ pieces for my wardrobe. As far as fashion is concerned, there’s no ‘perfect’ pieces because, well, trend comes and goes and it might still come back a few years later.

Instead of shopping blindly, or rather having only the very basics in my wardrobe, I needed guidance on finding my style and how to shop for my wardrobe. Then I came across Miss Louie, a fashion blogger/ YouTuber’s channel. I like her fashion style the moment I saw her and started to pick up tips and tricks on fashion. She does videos like fashion hauls, ideas for capsule wardrobes, seasonal lookbooks and bullet journal (something I’m very into as well).

Here are some tips she shared.

Fashion Mistakes and Tips by Miss Louie

  • DON’T go sales crazy
    • Evaluate your closet and create a wishlist before shopping to get only stuff that you really need.

“Even though it’s on sales, it doesn’t worth anything if you don’t actually need it” – Miss Louie

  • Don’t buy things that DON’T FIT you
    • Know your body (and style) and know what makes you feel best/ comfortable.
  • Don’t buy into every trend
    • Hanger test: everytime you wear a piece, put the hanger backwards, it represents the style that you are gravitate to and things that you are going to wear. It helps when you review your style.
    • Get one or two pieces of trendy pieces if you do want to try out a certain trend, and see how often you’d go to those pieces. Decide if you really do like the style and how to incorporate them into your closet.
  • Know your POWER COLORS
    • Observe the color you tend to wear MOST OFTEN (colors that have almost never appeared in your closet probably means they aren’t your favorite colors to wear and most likely you won’t be wearing even if you have them)
    • Harmonize the color scheme in your closet and allow them to mix and  match better.
  • Buy things that are VERSATILE
    • Go for item that can be integrated into 3 or 4 different outfits or looks that you ALREADY have in your closet.
    • Ask yourself if that piece can be worn in different ways.


Do check out Miss Louie on YouTube if you find the tips useful! That’s all I have for today, till them!
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Although I do subscribe to blogs, I always miss out posts updates via email notifications. There are simply too many kind of promotional newsletter (that’s why they ask for your email when you sign up for membership and stuff so that they could constantly remind you to spend on their products), which I almost missed out this one too, but the first line itself caught  my attention before hitting the trash button. Short but straight to the point! Need to reblog this and get it pin up somewhere in the room to serve as my constant reminder. Only if more people think and act that way, the world will become a better and happier place for everyone.

Happy reading!

 

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Find Your Middle Ground

just like me

When you find yourself judging, blaming, criticizing, resenting, or being frustrated and annoyed with an other person … here are some phrases to bring to mind.

“This person in front of me has a body and a mind… Just like me.
This person in front of me has feelings, emotions and thoughts… Just like me.
This person in front of me has in his or her life, experienced physical and emotional pain and suffering… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be free from pain and suffering… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be healthy and loved… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be happy… Just like me.”*

All people have similar needs, wants and desires. Fundamentally we act in order to protect ourselves and what we believe matters to us.
We all wish to be…

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The Miracle Morning (by Hal Elrod)

Yay! Scribble time.

It’s been, slightly more than a week since my last post. No, I wasn’t that busy. Yes, I do have ideas. Just that I didn’t know how to put in words. Just yet.

Ever since I started watching YouTube videos, I cannot stop. I kinda YouTube-d everything, just like how I Facebook-ed everything last time. Simply because I could. When I wanna learn about cooking, for example, I find a recipe on YouTube. When I wanna learn about saving money, I searched the topic on YouTube. It is easier to just watch a video than reading a post because it’s graphic with motions that show you step-by-step guide with demos. Even topics like how to save your money are discussed like how your financial advisor would talk to you, rather than reading a guide.

However, this video I watched, say a month ago, put me in a reading mode. I can’t say I love reading more than watching videos nowadays, but I definitely read more now that I had ever before. This magical video is called The Miracle Morning, by Hal Elfod (click on the link to watch on YouTube). I was always prompted by suggested videos whenever I was watching some videos about bullet journaling but I refuse to click on it because it is a 1 hour 22 minutes long video and the thumbnail just did not interest me. Until that one day, I don’t know what changed me, but I watched the video, finally. And I wish I have watched it sooner (still better than never)!

Hal is an awesome keynote speaker and author (author of “The Miracle Morning”), not only because of the life experience that he has had (well, probably he is because he only became who he is now after what he has experienced), he is inspiring and positive.

The Miracle Morning (or TMM), is basically teaching you how to start your morning awesome as if every morning is a Christmas morning. By starting your morning right, you’ll be more productive and positive, hence able to achieve more for the rest of your day. In other to do so, there is step-by-step guide by Hal, which you could learn to customize it to fit into your very own personal lifestyle. As I do not have a routine lifestyle where I wake up and go to work Monday thru Friday, I thought it was impossible for me to achieve that, but after reading the book (highly recommended, search it on Amazon and you’ll see the rating for yourself, it’s available in hard copy and soft copy too!), I’ve learned to customize it, and fit into my lifestyle. I’m still working on making it my routine so that I could do it effortlessly once it has become my habit.

Although it has just been a month for me I feel that I’m already making some progress, slow but good one. If reading is not your thing then start with the video and decide if you want to learn more about TMM. If you love to read but have yet to come across this book then get this one! If this is something that you’ve already known or practicing then you are already a step ahead of a lot of people, and I am happy for you. Take this from someone who has almost never pick up any non-comical books (other than academical textbooks) moreover finish one, this book is life changing and you will not regret it. Start transforming your life now by waking every morning as if it is Christmas morning!

 

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Happy reading! Till then! Xoxo.

 

The moment you take responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life is the moment you can change ANYTHING in your life. – Hal Elrod

 

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As much as I’d like to stick with schedule, it is not easy, for one simple reason, inspiration does not come in schedule. However, it is do-able, I just need to be more committed, and observance (affirmation for myself), and turn things around me into inspiration.

So, today is another work day for me. As I still had a little time to buffer, I went to food court for breakfast before reporting. I don’t normally take lift because the food court is just one level below my office. You know sometimes when you enter a lift that is crowded, like everyone is trying to get from the most bottom level to the highest, then they saw you enter just to travel one level up (or down), the kind of look they give you as if you’ve done something awful (which by the way, I think it’s awful too..). Anyway, it wasn’t crowded today, no, to be precise, a lift arrived right in front of me and everyone was getting out from the lift, and no one was waiting for the lift. So I made a quick decision, to take the lift.

As I walked towards the lift, as I said, everyone was getting out, I saw this old gentleman, pushing his trolley, walked out from the lift, very slowly. He appeared to be frail, that’s why he was walking very slowly, which it seemed like the lift door was shutting right behind him. Then, he turned around to press the lift button, to hold the lift for me. It happened in split second, but it has made an impeccable impression on me, which became the inspiration of this post.

Jeff Bozos, CEO of Amazon said “Cleverness is a gift, kindness is a choice”. Mark Twain said kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. And there is also this popular saying of the world is full of nice people, it you can’t find one, be one. I’m sure you’ve heard of one of these sayings in your lifetime. However, it takes another level for one to actually do it. And the gentleman did it. It might be something small for him (turning around and press a button), but it was something to me (I might miss the lift and have to wait for another one or take the escalator instead, which of course, not a big deal). What I’m trying to say is, the gesture of this gentleman, shows that kindness is at every corner, and it is up to us to discover, and appreciate it. If we choose to ignore them, the kindness, we will never find one. If a frail gentleman could do that for a stranger like me, could we, the self-claimed able-bodied do more for others? Sure we could. But it is a choice. Being kind is a choice. And it’s the matter of how we choose.

I quickly thanked the gentleman before the lift door shut.

Let me end this post with a quote from AESOP:-

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.


Thank you for making the world a better place, sir.

Till then!

 

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Change

Year 2017 is all about change. We have already see it coming.
From world politics to weather climate, everything is changing. I just did not expect there would be such a drastic change in my personal life as well.

As unpleasant as the change may be, I am glad it happened now rather than later part of life, as I still have the courage and strength to embrace the change. I will forever be indebt to every single one of you who cared and loved me. Thank you for being so supportive and stay with me even till this very moment. I will stand up strong again and shall not disappoint you guys. I can, and I will.

“The distance between insanity and genius is measured only by success.” —Bruce Feirstein

“Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition.” —Alexander Smith

After all, change is the only constant.