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Today’s learn

So I’ve just found out I have about 20minutes to write before I reach Milan Malpensa Airport.

The initial plan was to do it like a self conscious streamline on my Moleskine limited edition Beauty A5 lined notebook, but the bus ride is a little too bumpy to do so, so here I am.

I always say I don’t know how to begin but I always end up with long winded introduction.

I was suppose to finish my Girls’ trip to Milan day 3 and final draft this morning. Then I felt like I was just telling stories of what happened on day 3. It was a good trip, a good day 3, but do I need to tell a story on what happened? What do I get from it? Will I come back and read that someday to remind me what happened? How does that improve my life quality? I know I wasn’t writing for my readers, which I don’t think there’s any, honestly, I was writing it for myself. But, why was I writing it when I couldn’t answer the above questions? Was I writing for the sake of writing? Or was I writing so I could mark of the task on my to-do list? I’m confused.

I went thru some photos of that trip, reminded me I should plan another trip to bring mom and sister. We should have more girls time together. Photos or not, blog post or not, I guess is the memories of spending quality time that matters. The memories will be ours, no one else. That is what matters.

With that, I’ll still complete my post, well, just in case I want to have something to look back. But I will constantly remind myself the purpose of me writing, a memory for myself (and mom and sis if they would like to read), and that’s it.

I used to write more spontaneously, what changed?

Is the idea of being presentable (so-called) that looks good on instagram and facebook, try to make things as ‘perfect’ as possible, then I saw this video called Done is better than perfect. Start before you are ready! by Aileen Xu, or her YouTube name Lavendaire. So it reminds me why am I being inconsistent in getting things done. Being a (occasional) perfectionist, sometimes I like to make things perfect and sometimes I just don’t. And when I don’t, probably I’ll get things done quicker. The result might not be the one I’ll be proud of, but I’ve got things done, rather than keep thinking I must make sure everything is perfect. And what I could do is to review my result and learn how to make things better (just like when I’m experimenting with my bullet journal). But that doesn’t mean I’m not giving out my best, that is actually the best I could do at that point of time, with the limited resources I have at the moment.

So yeah, that’s my learn for today. My 20 minutes is up. I’m gonna label this post as another today’s learn. After all, life is a learning process. We learn from everyone and we learn everyday. Keep an open mind and keep learning!

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Let me begin this post with, I am writing the girls’ trip to Milan (Day 3) tomorrow.

I’ve learned this from a book called Eat the Frog or Eat the Frog first, something like that. It’s a book about overcoming procrastination, by tackling the most difficult task FIRST. So here I am, tackling this once-was-the-easiest-task-but-it’s-now-totally-not task — posting on time and committed to complete by far the most re-scheduled tasks in my journal.

I’m supposed to do the girls’ trip today. But I didn’t. I could have used the time now to draft that instead of this, but I choose to do this. Which made me realized, I’m more motivated to post inspirational/ motivational/ lesson-learned kind of posts compared to travelogue or reviews. Maybe it’s for me to narrow down to a few topic that truly inspires me, rather than juggling too many balls at the same time.

I’d like to dedicate this post to a friend of mine. Technically, she was more known to me as my friend’s girlfriend. Although I have met her a few times, we didn’t have the opportunity to talk to each other on a more personal level. She was several years younger than me, but she passed away due to dengue recently. I didn’t know dengue could be so deadly and it happened so fast and so unexpectedly.

Needless to say, the incident leaves my friend an unimaginable impact. Who would have guessed this? A little girl passed away at her twenties just like that. Life is so fragile. Was my first thought.

I met up with this friend yesterday, slightly a month after the incident. My intention was to check on him, see how’re things going on his side. Obviously, I wouldn’t expect to see him happy, but as a friend, I want to show support. I tried to be extra careful with my choice of word, I rehearse at least 2 times everytime before I say something. I know any kind of question or word will trigger his sadness. I mean, there really isn’t anything I could do to help someone feel better in this kind of situation.

After the conversation with my friend, here are my thoughts:

  1. Be the supportive friend and family, especially at times like that.
  2. Sometimes less is more. It’s applicable to words too.
  3. Memories could either heal or kill a person.
  4. We need to tell ourselves we don’t need to experience to learn.
  5. Quality is always more important than quantity.
  6. Live life to the fullest and don’t give yourself any chance to regret.

Things that we have been told over and over again, by the wise, by the experienced, yet, they don’t hit us until the very moment things occur. Let’s not take anything or anyone for granted. Biggest lesson learned today. And that is the lesson to be remembered for life.

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Fashion mistakes and tips by Miss Louie

Ever since I’ve started my capsule wardrobe, I had been looking up for articles and videos about how to choose the ‘perfect‘ pieces for my wardrobe. As far as fashion is concerned, there’s no ‘perfect’ pieces because, well, trend comes and goes and it might still come back a few years later.

Instead of shopping blindly, or rather having only the very basics in my wardrobe, I needed guidance on finding my style and how to shop for my wardrobe. Then I came across Miss Louie, a fashion blogger/ YouTuber’s channel. I like her fashion style the moment I saw her and started to pick up tips and tricks on fashion. She does videos like fashion hauls, ideas for capsule wardrobes, seasonal lookbooks and bullet journal (something I’m very into as well).

Here are some tips she shared.

Fashion Mistakes and Tips by Miss Louie

  • DON’T go sales crazy
    • Evaluate your closet and create a wishlist before shopping to get only stuff that you really need.

“Even though it’s on sales, it doesn’t worth anything if you don’t actually need it” – Miss Louie

  • Don’t buy things that DON’T FIT you
    • Know your body (and style) and know what makes you feel best/ comfortable.
  • Don’t buy into every trend
    • Hanger test: everytime you wear a piece, put the hanger backwards, it represents the style that you are gravitate to and things that you are going to wear. It helps when you review your style.
    • Get one or two pieces of trendy pieces if you do want to try out a certain trend, and see how often you’d go to those pieces. Decide if you really do like the style and how to incorporate them into your closet.
  • Know your POWER COLORS
    • Observe the color you tend to wear MOST OFTEN (colors that have almost never appeared in your closet probably means they aren’t your favorite colors to wear and most likely you won’t be wearing even if you have them)
    • Harmonize the color scheme in your closet and allow them to mix and  match better.
  • Buy things that are VERSATILE
    • Go for item that can be integrated into 3 or 4 different outfits or looks that you ALREADY have in your closet.
    • Ask yourself if that piece can be worn in different ways.


Do check out Miss Louie on YouTube if you find the tips useful! That’s all I have for today, till them!
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First learning point from Capsule Wardrobe

While proofreading my previous post on Capsule Wardrobe, I went to my closet and re-analyse my wardrobe.

As I have mentioned in my previous post, I have three instead of one capsule wardrobe. One being the smaller version of a capsule wardrobe at my parents’ place, and the other two is kind of a combo of summer and winter wears due to the nature of my job. I thought I could make the summer wears work for winter weather as well by layering up but I totally forgot about the extreme cold or warm weather. So I decide to separate the two for real. For example, instead of having 3 pairs of bottoms for both winter and summer, I have 2 pairs of bottoms for winter and 2 pairs for summer.

I thought the multi seasonal-combo closet is a good idea because it had been working for the past few weeks until I realized the only reason it worked was because I haven’t really been to places that are extremely cold in the past few weeks. So I made the change. Hah!

The initial idea was to try that closet for 3 months and see how things go before making any changes, but the more I look at it, the more I feel the need to change. So that’s my first learning point: when trying out something new, be it a concept or a product, it should fit into our lifestyle instead of changing our lifestyle to fit into it. A good concept should improve our lives rather than making it more difficult. Experiment a few more times by switching things up to rather than adjusting yourself to them will maximise the benefit and create your own style.

After the small change I’ve made to my capsule wardrobe, I find myself enjoying the wardrobe more now! I adjusted from the initial idea of 3 pieces from 12 categories (tank, blouse, long sleeves, button up, shorts, pants, skirt, dress, coats, flats, covered shoes and heels) by changing the categories into just 5 categories (tops, bottoms, dress, outerwear and footwear). In that way, I could introduce more tank and blouse into the spring and summer closet, or more long sleeves and pants into the autumn and winter closet, if that make sense.

That’s all I have for today. Leave me comments on what do you think about capsule wardrobe! Till then!

 

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Building My Capsule Wardrobe

I came across the concept of capsule wardrobe recently and decided I would create one. Or maybe three, for a few reasons. First is the nature of my job. I travel all the time (from the southern hemisphere to the northern hemisphere) where the season changes almost every subsequent day, and I need to get outfits for all seasons ready. I can’t rotate my clothes once every 3 months hence I created the second closet.

Secondly, I have more than one closet, literally more than one physical closet. I am currently not staying with my parents. So instead of moving my clothes here and there all the time (I do visit them few days monthly, sometimes it could be up to a week), I decide that I will just create another one so I have something to wear whenever I am visiting. And that was the birth of my third closet.

To create these closets, the first step was to clear things that I’m no longer wearing. I do clean up my closet every year and this is by far the biggest cleanup I have ever done. I started by watching a video on how to build a capsule wardrobe by the YouTuber called Use Less. Use Less provides a step-by-step guide on how she created her own wardrobe. She describes her channel as “to inspire women to buy less, choose more carefully and have fun with a systematic and more minimal approach to their wardrobe“, which I totally agreed. I emptied up my closets and divided them into piles. No surprise, even though I have a lot in my NO pile, I still have way too many in my YES pile.

So, I looked for more articles about capsule wardrobe. I referred to The Every Girl and Unfancy, both are fashion and lifestyle bloggers, on choosing the pieces that will go into my closet (Unfancy created a free printable wardrobe planner which I find it very useful in wardrobe planning and understanding your fashion style).

After a final selection, I hung up all the pieces and decided that I would only wear those for the next 3 months (or probably more than 3 months). The first two closets are kind of like a combo of summer and winter wear – I’ll choose pieces that I thought would be suitable for both summer and winter, and expand the category to outerwear and thick outerwear, so I would only need to add layers or thermal underneath my summer wear. add a few categories like I try to make the summer closet suitable for winter as well, by choosing pieces that I could wear layers and thermal underneath and added a few thick jackets), and divided those that weren’t selected into two categories. The first category is clothes that are not being selected but they are still my all time favorite or carry sentimental values. I could go back and rotate my closet if I find myself missing a certain outfit and even choose to replace the one that’s already in the closet once it gets old. The second category is simple – clothes that I’m ready to give away.

Then left my maybe and occasional/ seasonal piles. I divided them into two categories: the first category is pieces that hold sentimental values or pieces that I still see myself wearing. They are now nicely kept in a vacuum sealed bag and sitting in the drawer. I could go back and rotate my closet if I find myself missing a certain outfit and even choose to replace the one that’s already in the closet once it gets old. The second category is simple – clothes that I’m ready to give away.

My current closet is mostly things that I’ve already owned because I’m still finding my style and I do not want to waste more money on purchasing things that I might end up giving away. So yeah, I do not have any picture of the current closet to share now. Maybe someday in the future, when I’ve figured out my style, then I might consider sharing them here.

Yeah, that’s all I have for today. Thank you once again for dropping by! I’ll be sharing more on this topic in the future like why makes me go minimal, things that I’ve learned from going minimal, mistakes I’ve done in the past etc. Feel free to comment and share your thoughts! Till then!

 

Xoxo.

 

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Although I do subscribe to blogs, I always miss out posts updates via email notifications. There are simply too many kind of promotional newsletter (that’s why they ask for your email when you sign up for membership and stuff so that they could constantly remind you to spend on their products), which I almost missed out this one too, but the first line itself caught  my attention before hitting the trash button. Short but straight to the point! Need to reblog this and get it pin up somewhere in the room to serve as my constant reminder. Only if more people think and act that way, the world will become a better and happier place for everyone.

Happy reading!

 

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Find Your Middle Ground

just like me

When you find yourself judging, blaming, criticizing, resenting, or being frustrated and annoyed with an other person … here are some phrases to bring to mind.

“This person in front of me has a body and a mind… Just like me.
This person in front of me has feelings, emotions and thoughts… Just like me.
This person in front of me has in his or her life, experienced physical and emotional pain and suffering… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be free from pain and suffering… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be healthy and loved… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be happy… Just like me.”*

All people have similar needs, wants and desires. Fundamentally we act in order to protect ourselves and what we believe matters to us.
We all wish to be…

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The Miracle Morning (by Hal Elrod)

Yay! Scribble time.

It’s been, slightly more than a week since my last post. No, I wasn’t that busy. Yes, I do have ideas. Just that I didn’t know how to put in words. Just yet.

Ever since I started watching YouTube videos, I cannot stop. I kinda YouTube-d everything, just like how I Facebook-ed everything last time. Simply because I could. When I wanna learn about cooking, for example, I find a recipe on YouTube. When I wanna learn about saving money, I searched the topic on YouTube. It is easier to just watch a video than reading a post because it’s graphic with motions that show you step-by-step guide with demos. Even topics like how to save your money are discussed like how your financial advisor would talk to you, rather than reading a guide.

However, this video I watched, say a month ago, put me in a reading mode. I can’t say I love reading more than watching videos nowadays, but I definitely read more now that I had ever before. This magical video is called The Miracle Morning, by Hal Elfod (click on the link to watch on YouTube). I was always prompted by suggested videos whenever I was watching some videos about bullet journaling but I refuse to click on it because it is a 1 hour 22 minutes long video and the thumbnail just did not interest me. Until that one day, I don’t know what changed me, but I watched the video, finally. And I wish I have watched it sooner (still better than never)!

Hal is an awesome keynote speaker and author (author of “The Miracle Morning”), not only because of the life experience that he has had (well, probably he is because he only became who he is now after what he has experienced), he is inspiring and positive.

The Miracle Morning (or TMM), is basically teaching you how to start your morning awesome as if every morning is a Christmas morning. By starting your morning right, you’ll be more productive and positive, hence able to achieve more for the rest of your day. In other to do so, there is step-by-step guide by Hal, which you could learn to customize it to fit into your very own personal lifestyle. As I do not have a routine lifestyle where I wake up and go to work Monday thru Friday, I thought it was impossible for me to achieve that, but after reading the book (highly recommended, search it on Amazon and you’ll see the rating for yourself, it’s available in hard copy and soft copy too!), I’ve learned to customize it, and fit into my lifestyle. I’m still working on making it my routine so that I could do it effortlessly once it has become my habit.

Although it has just been a month for me I feel that I’m already making some progress, slow but good one. If reading is not your thing then start with the video and decide if you want to learn more about TMM. If you love to read but have yet to come across this book then get this one! If this is something that you’ve already known or practicing then you are already a step ahead of a lot of people, and I am happy for you. Take this from someone who has almost never pick up any non-comical books (other than academical textbooks) moreover finish one, this book is life changing and you will not regret it. Start transforming your life now by waking every morning as if it is Christmas morning!

 

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Happy reading! Till then! Xoxo.

 

The moment you take responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life is the moment you can change ANYTHING in your life. – Hal Elrod

 

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